Everything is stereotyped. Everyone is judged. Everyone is
treated differently if they don’t fit the stereotype…the so called social norm.
I am not a feminist. No. I am not one of those women who try
to tell you or prove to you that women are a superior race. Or who go about
shouting slogans and burning bras to prove their point. I am not much of a
rebel either(not now at least). Heck no.
But I do fight against injustice if I happen to see it. I am
vocal and opinionated. I don’t judge people coz I have been judged (only by
people who don’t have a clue about you) and I know how much truth there is to
it.I don’t gossip.Never have .Never will.And I don’t like being stereotyped. Or
My husband had a chick friend in college..a smart girl who
broke the norms and rode his Enfield on a trip of over 200 kms!! I have a
cousin sis, who has ridden a Bullet and worn button down guys’ shirts for as
long as I can remember. I have a guy friend who loves to shop and chat about clothes,
movies and sensitive stuff with me..And he is not GAY. And my daughter today is
definitely more interested in climbing gates and jumping stairs than playing
with dolls (although she is totally enamored by nail paints…a girlie girl in
I am quite simple..didn’t rebel much..Really fit the
stereotype of a girly girl..long hair..decent clothes, no tattooes(although I am dying to
get one),never even worn dark nail paints!! But hell if I subject my baby to be
the same as me..I believe in the beauty of being “different”…even if its in
small ways..thats what makes us interesting … I think whats interesting about
me is the fact that I am passionate..about anything and everything that I
do..You will never see me do anything half heartedly…and I am genuine. I call a
spade, a spade. And I am a loyal friend. That’s me. May be that’s what P found interesting
about me ;)
Here’s a handy dandy about women.. and You (men) need to
know it. By heart.
- Girls are not lucky coz they found you.You are lucky coz we
chose You. Tell that to yourself.Remind that to your parents. Keep that in your
- We don’t prefer veg food or salad to meat... We like to eat
too (and drink) !!
- We don’t mind getting messy once in a while.. Heck.. we even
enjoy being the handywoman of our homes at times ( I can screw/unscrew and fix
almost everything at my house..and I do so gladly).
- You are not the only one with a boss.Or deadlines
- The sooner you teach your son to treat women properly,the
better the world will be for your daughter.
- We are not the sole custodians of tradition.. (and yeah, only
fools don’t question tradition)!
- We don’t all love dresses and the color pink. (If I ever
wear a dress, its coz I had to..but I am a jeans and shorts kinds gal, that’s just
who I am..and Nooo…Pink… Please).
- Comfort is not just your fiefdom. We crave it too.
- We don’t mind getting our hair messed up on a bike ride…in fact
we are waiting for the night you will sweep us away for a sexy long bike ride ,
just like our dating days (Sighhh)
- We don’t care if our nails,lips,eyes aren’t perfectly made
up. All.the. time. I never put on any make up.Thats me. Accept it.
- We do like it if you take us out on a date, even if we are
married. Try it…
- We love our books and noo..do not touch our music or add
your songs to our podlist (unless you have a death wish of course)
- We know Pilates and love Karate too.. and are not afraid to
use it on creeps and perverts.
- We love video games and Marvel Comics and Sci fi movies as
much as you. And not all women want to watch romantic sappy soggy tear jerking
love stories all the time (fact).
- We Lust after John Hamm. Make peace with it. I don’t complain
about you and your fantasies, do i?
- We also like our Space..like to be on our own at times..take
solitary trips once in a while.
- And Yes, we do love being ourselves. Don’t forget before we became
your spouses, mothers etc, we were an individual. And We Still are.
- That’s just how we are…I would love to see someone try to
stereotype women now!
And this is a dish I made to break the so called stereotype
thinking that women prefer kebabs and tikkas to robust,messy and gloriously
sticky Drums of Heaven!!
I mean come on….
Look at these beauties, and tell me you’ld prefer a flat piece
of simple tikka to the drama of eating this deliciousness ,especially on a
I Think NOT.
Ah…. You cant, can you??
Neither could I… Lets get messy ladies…
Just like “a messy kitchen is a happy kitchen, a messy plate
is a happy palate”… (doesn’t rhyme and all..but come on, you get my drift,
Here’s how you make this Perfect Weekend Prime Time Snack…and
Marinade for the chicken:
Ginger Garlic paste – 1 Tsp
Red chilly paste – 1 tsp
Salt – acc to taste
Soya sauce – 1 Tsp
Pepper – to taste.
1/2 kg Chicken wings (6 pieces)
For the batter (for deep frying the
chicken pieces) :
Maida (All Purpose Flour)- 2-3 Tbsp
Cornflour - 1-2 Tbsp
Red Chilly paste- 1 Tsp
Salt as needed.
Water – to mix.
For the Sauce:
Garlic Cloves chopped finely- 4-5
Small piece of ginger grated finely
Small Onion - 1
Green chilies -3-4
Scallions (Spring Onion)- 2-3 stalks.
Tomato sauce- 2 tbsp
Red Chilie Paste – 1Tsp
Soya sauce - 1 tsp.
Sugar -1 tsp
Kashmiri Mirch Powder (Optional)- 1 tsp
Red food coloring – 1 drop (optional)
Salt & pepper to taste
Oil for frying.
I go to my regular butcher and get the lollipops cut …
Clean the pieces well.
Make the marinade
by mixing well all the ingredients listed under the
marinade..Coat the chicken pieces well with the marinade..Keep aside for 1 hour
preferably in the refrigerator.
Next make the batter
for the deep frying of the chicken pieces..
Mix Maida(All Purpose Flour), Cornflour, egg, salt, 1 tsp red chilly paste with
some water if required. Whisk thoroughly to make a thick batter of pouring consistency. Rest
the batter for fifteen to
Dip the marinated wings in the batter so that it coats well and deep-fry for 7-8
minutes on medium heat, stirring frequently or until crisp and golden brown.
Make the sauce..
(alter quantites to suit your taste):
Heat the oil in a wok or frying pan, add the chopped garlic and ginger and
stir-fry for 30 seconds.
Add the onion and green chillies and stir-fry for another minute.
Add 1 tsp.red chilly paste, 1 tspn soya sauce, tomato sauce, and stir fry for
Add salt, Kashmiri Mirch,sugar and little water to get a sauce like
Toss fried wings in the sauce and sprinkle spring onion.
Switch on your TV to some major primetime viewing,sit back, forget your
girlie ways …and simply dig in…
As for the men, another reason for you to be thankful for us ;)
A totally messy, but satiated (Burppp)